SolRiver Arts
Community Agreements
we are women Supporting women
agreement 1: we show up as we are
We show up free of substances (no drugs/alcohol), free of judgment, and free of personas attached to the clothing we wear. Some of our events will be clothed (to practice adorning our inner Goddess), some will not.
agreement 2: we ask before sharing events
Sharing your events in this space is what makes this a community, so I encourage you to do so. Please share events that are in alignment with our intention: Substance-free, body-positive, & inclusive of personal development. Always ask permission from the event host to share your event to ensure it aligns with our guidelines. This is to prevent a “spammy” chat that defeats the intention of this group.
agreement 3: we practice radical consent
We always ask for permission to touch, to provide feedback, to include someone in a photo or video, and to promote an event. We are all responsible for asserting our boundaries with one another and looking for clear signs of a “yes”. If it’s not a “HELL yes,” it’s a no.
agreement 4: we practice curiosity
We are a mirror for one another and commit to listening when we are feeling triggered. We trust that our triggers show us some shadow aspect within us that needs to be integrated and healed. We agree not to draw premature conclusions (projections) about who people are, practicing curiosity rather than judgment.
agreement 5: we respect this as a safe space
Honoring this as a sacred space means understanding it is a container that holds differing thoughts, opinions, beliefs, and feelings. We do not discriminate based on gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, race, or spiritual beliefs, and you’ll never be forced to share anything you don’t want to share; Your participation is voluntary. Part of promoting a culture of safety is speaking for ourselves using "I" language instead of "us, you, or we" language.
agreement 6: we maintain confidentiality
We understand that everything that is shared in this space is sacred. Knowing that what we share stays between us creates confidence to share more deeply. We are each solely responsible for anything we decide to share. We agree not to hold anyone else responsible should they fail to respect our privacy or divulge information related to us.
agreement 7: we honor collaboration over competition
Our Motto is "Women Empowering and Supporting Women." As humans, it is natural to compare ourselves. In this space, we try our best to align ourselves with a team mentality instead of a competitive mentality, replacing old comparison narratives with ones of trust, collaboration, and compassion.
agreement 8: practice doing the opposite
We may have an “Inner Shy Girl" archetype that typically holds us back. Practice inviting her to take risks, explore, declare something, or experiment away from her "norm". If we have an "Overachiever" archetype who shares a lot, we can practice listening and being quieter. Notice what "doing the opposite" brings up within you.
agreement 9: we practice holding space
We practice centering ourselves in our own bodies, tuning into our inner experiences rather than being “others-focused” and trying to fix them. Does your inner “Rescuer” want to save someone who is struggling? Instead of giving advice or fixing, practice sharing from your own inner wellspring of rich wisdom, experience, and strength.
agreement 10: we don’t tolerate overt sexual behavior or body shame
We do not engage in sexual activity or advances, verbally or physically. We avoid sexual jokes and non-contextual sex-related dialogue or content sharing. We do not focus comments, opinions, or dialogue on a person’s body or body parts.
agreement 11: we don’t take it too seriously
We agree that life is meant to be enjoyed and it's ok to let go of our own agenda around how things are "supposed to be". By doing so, we organically choose PLAY and SPONTANEITY over RIGIDITY, knowing people make mistakes and that’s ok.